Do you ask for permission??

Paul Steinberg

Paul Steinberg

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When I die, my wife can have fun selling everything that I never told her about before I bought it. Almost every time that I have discussed buying anything with her in advance, she had reasons to nix it, and then I didn't buy it because I wanted to keep marital harmony (if there is such a thing), only to regret it later on. In one instance, I brought her to see a car and she said to buy it. She didn't know it then, but it was bought and paid for when she looked at it. My 1978 Superior is the same story, she had no idea, until she read about it on the website. Ditto for the 1963 Pinner Chrysler and the 1969 Miller Meteor 48" Classic. Its my money and I will spend it the way that I want!!!
 
My wife has no interest in the PCS or pro cars. She don't attend meets either. I buy and sell cars all the time and she don't even know about some of them. I think the kicker is as long as the bills are paid and I don't loose money on deals she don't really care. She has a car for her needs that she likes. Funny thing working at the car lot I actually don't own a personal car anymore having access to lots of choices works great being I used to trade all the time to get to drive something new. I do have my stash of antique non daily drivers.
 
Paul, this is EXACTLY what kept me from this hobby for years.
I've bought, built, or traded for about every type of vehicle known to man. When it came to "professional cars" I was always told if I bought one "You'll ride in it once Dwayne, because i'll kill you if you bring one home".

Lurking on the forums here for years, I learned so much before ever becoming active. These days I do what I want, i'm single. However if the day ever comes I meet that one special lady, she'll have to accept my hobby from day 1 (obviously, there are 3 coaches in the garage) and know that money will never be blown on this hobby if bills are due, etc. and she gets the things she needs... and wants. Funny you'd post this Paul, I had a very similar conversation with Rocky last night on the phone.

How many of you ever bought a vehicle & hid it at a friend's house because you knew the wrath that awaited you at home? (looks around the room) LOL
 
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Paul Steinberg said:
When I die, my wife can have fun selling everything that I never told her about before I bought it. Almost every time that I have discussed buying anything with her in advance, she had reasons to nix it, and then I didn't buy it because I wanted to keep marital harmony (if there is such a thing), only to regret it later on. In one instance, I brought her to see a car and she said to buy it. She didn't know it then, but it was bought and paid for when she looked at it. My 1978 Superior is the same story, she had no idea, until she read about it on the website. Ditto for the 1963 Pinner Chrysler and the 1969 Miller Meteor 48" Classic. Its my money and I will spend it the way that I want!!!
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Paul,
That is a very bold statement...Its my money and I will spend it the way that I want!!!
In the past 40 plus years, I have bought several cars, trucks and motorcycles without permission. I have always found it is easier to ask forgiveness than permission. Like when I bought a 1966 Olds Jetstar for my son for his 16th birthday. Yes, he still has the car. He is 34 now.
Or when I went to buy VW parts and came home with a 73 Beetle sedan. Just recently I did tell Shelley that I was going to look at 54 Cadillac flower car. She was surprised when I came home without the car.
That is my story and I am sticking to it.
Mike
 
As my friend from "Binder City" stated, I've always found it's easier to get forgivness than it is to get permission (in most situations).
 
Is it really fair to leave a loved one the task of disposing of our possessions after we depart this life? To me it is not. Since my ca diagnosis, I have sold off most of my toy trains and my last 2 big old cars, plus quite a few books and magazines. I have more "stuff" to go through and dispose of yet. Anyone interested in some Packard or other auto books or r.r. books? Holler if so. BTW, I have changed oncologists and have another PET/CT coming up in 2 days. Am feeling not all that chipper, so hope the scan will shed some light. Oh, also have a nice Schwinn men's bike from the mid - '90's that is like new. Now, if I could just find a decent, cheap, easy entry/exit, pre-computer car to enjoy for a little while, I would be set. When I go, the proceeds from the sale of that one would go half to heirs, half to a worthy cause, such as Catholic Charities or Lutheran Social Services. All for now. Jim
 
Dwayne Brooks said:
These days I do what I want, i'm single. However if the day ever comes I meet that one special lady, she'll have to accept my hobby from day 1 (obviously, there are 3 coaches in the garage) and know that money will never be blown on this hobby if bills are due, etc. and she gets the things she needs... and wants.
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AMEN Bro. Brooks!!!:clap:

Although I don't have any issues with anyone (as some do) right now in what I buy, own, drive and bring home!!! But not being married and being single owning hearses and ambulances does have its perks! The coaches can "repel" the "wrong" kinda girls!:toocool::1062:
 
Jim, how about a nicely preserved 1959 Oldsmobile 4 door hardtop??? My neighbor 2 doors (he's also my dispatcher at work) down has one and I noticed a couple guys looking at it a few minutes ago. I didn't/don/t know if it's for sale but I can sure find out for you.

Strength to you my friend.
 
Dwayne Brooks said:
Paul, this is EXACTLY what kept me from this hobby for years.
I've bought, built, or traded for about every type of vehicle known to man. When it came to "professional cars" I was always told if I bought one "You'll ride in it once Dwayne, because i'll kill you if you bring one home".

Lurking on the forums here for years, I learned so much before ever becoming active. These days I do what I want, i'm single. However if the day ever comes I meet that one special lady, she'll have to accept my hobby from day 1 (obviously, there are 3 coaches in the garage) and know that money will never be blown on this hobby if bills are due, etc. and she gets the things she needs... and wants. Funny you'd post this Paul, I had a very similar conversation with Rocky last night on the phone.

How many of you ever bought a vehicle & hid it at a friend's house because you knew the wrath that awaited you at home? (looks around the room) LOL
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22 years ago, i was living temporarily at my parents house and trying to save money to get my own place again. Then I found my 71 Lincoln, bought it and kept it at a friends house for 6 months until i was out on my own again.
 
Paul Steinberg said:
When I die, my wife can have fun selling everything that I never told her about before I bought it. Almost every time that I have discussed buying anything with her in advance, she had reasons to nix it, and then I didn't buy it because I wanted to keep marital harmony (if there is such a thing), only to regret it later on. In one instance, I brought her to see a car and she said to buy it. She didn't know it then, but it was bought and paid for when she looked at it. My 1978 Superior is the same story, she had no idea, until she read about it on the website. Ditto for the 1963 Pinner Chrysler and the 1969 Miller Meteor 48" Classic. Its my money and I will spend it the way that I want!!!
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I once thought like you Paul, but my life is much more peaceful, when I get permission/blessings from headquarters, aka my wife.
 
I have always done whatever I wanted to do and lately, much more often.

I am not married, don't have any kids but have been dating Jen for 11 years or so. (She is a fight attendant with WestJet)

Sometimes I wonder if doing what I do is the "right thing" or not, like buying another car, when I have 10 already.

I am always looking for a good condition car and buy it when I can.


From being a kid in high school, working all summer to save enough money to buy a go-kart... until now, a bigger kid, I always make sure I have the money before buying anything. I wouldn't buy it if I didn't have the money.


Lately my cars are my pride and joy and is what makes me happiest !

I am really glad I got the last 3 hearses as they are what keeps me going.
Out of everything I own, these would be the last three things to go.


I guess married couples should talk about large purchases but if one or the other really wants something, I think they should get it as I know how happy they make me. A little give and take works both ways when someone else is involved. If the funds are there, make it happen I say. Just as if there is something your lady wants, tell her to get it. Both of you will be happy in the end.


LIFE IS SHORT !!! MAKE THE MOST OF IT !!! DRIVE A PROCAR !!!


Darren
 
I am of the opinion that the old car hobby in general, and professional cars in particular, is a hobby where being spouse-less is definitely the way to go. While there are of course positive stories of husband and wife equally enjoying an old car, I have heard many many more stories with themes such as, "I would love an old car, but the wife won't let me", "I'm selling because the wife says it has to go", "With a kid on the way, she's demanding that my pride and joy go to make way for a minivan", etc. I've lost count of how many times I've had one of my cars at a show, been asked if I had anything else, I rattle off a list, and he responds with, "You're not married, are you?"

I did go thru the dating phase of my life, and for me personally, it was a miserable failure. I can literally say with 100% sincerity that my cars have brought me alot more pleasure and enjoyment than anyone I ever dated, and have stayed around alot longer too!

For me, I don't think its putting it too strongly to say that the car hobby is way of life, it is part of who I am, and to try to change that would be trying to change me, and that's not going to happen. I have often thought that should I start dating someone seriously, I would tell them early on, "Don't make the ultimatium of its me or the cars, because you won't like the answer!"
 
I just don't talk to her about it. I started by building a large garage that my wife never went into, after a couple of years, she found out there were cars in there she didn't know about and now she comes to visit me out there! :badbad:

So, I used the funeral home garage to "hold" the cars for awhile, she never went in ther garage....a year ago, she stated working at the funeral home with me! :3_7_11v:

I have found a good friend who has a huge storage building that is empty (except for a hearse or two). :thumb:

Also, all cars look the same when you cover them with cloth car covers, and she won't lift the covers off to look what is underneath...:peek-a-boo:

If I need to tell her, I have a friend break the news to her first, then she calms down before she talks to me!:boom:
 
I have stories for a previous relationship but past is past. right now we have divided up the bill and each of us put into the house hold account what is necessary to keep the house hold together and solvent. we talk about things on the house and property stuff like that. any thing left over after that is covered is mine or hers depending on who we are talking about. each of us can buy what every we can afford to pay for. that keeps the need to keep securest a mote thing. the game playing down to what ever. i don't need that for spice in my life and neither does she.
 
She ain't selling nothing of mine because I am going to out live her and get me a young, rich, nymphomaniac wife THEN she can sell my stuff after I died on my honeymoon with a big smile on my face!:thumb:
 
I'm single. If I want something, it's my choice. Only limitation now is storage space, but as you know, I have plenty of space for the cars I have now.

Jim Tighe said:
Is it really fair to leave a loved one the task of disposing of our possessions after we depart this life? To me it is not...

Now, if I could just find a decent, cheap, easy entry/exit, pre-computer car to enjoy for a little while, I would be set. When I go, the proceeds from the sale of that one would go half to heirs, half to a worthy cause, such as Catholic Charities or Lutheran Social Services. All for now. Jim
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Jim, hope you are feeling a little better soon. Good comments. If you want a decent, pre-computer car just to drive, how about a Studebaker Lark? I love mine, basic, dependable, cheap to fix, and easy to drive.
 
Ron Devies said:
She ain't selling nothing of mine because I am going to out live her and get me a young, rich, nymphomaniac wife THEN she can sell my stuff after I died on my honeymoon with a big smile on my face!:thumb:
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Ron, you are having some big dreams, aren't you? About fifteen years ago, my then 66 year old father told my mother something very similar. As fate would have it, he did just that, but he is now 81! The chances of my father going out with a smile on his face are getting slimmer and slimmer.
 
Mike Stevens said:
Ron is a believer in the if you gotta dream, dream big school of thought.
Mike
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"I have a Dream".......................or maybe this should be in the quote of the day. I forgot, she can now access these forums THANKS A LOT JERRY! :smiley_w_ballbat:
 
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