Attended a funeral today.

Danny Ryder - Deceased - 1962 - 2021

Danny Ryder - Deceased - 1962 - 2021

PCS Life Member
My great aunt died and just got back from her funeral where I was ask to be a paul bearer. I did this with pride knowing the funeral business and actually this was first time I had been ask to do this. Oh, we often had to help with it when I worked in the funeral world being some families for what ever reason didn't always have enough guys to do this so we did what we had to. The compeating funeral home to the one I worked at had the service and we always were heavy rivals. I sat there on the front pew and watched how the directors carried out the service and was reminded of the pride and detail we took with funerals and was again reminded I didn't want these guys having anything to do with a funeral for my immediate family. They just didn't do things the way we used to.:pat:
 
Sorry to hear about your great aunt, Danny. And I'm sorry the rival funeral home got the call. Good thing you were there to keep them straight.
 
some time knowing what goes on is a curse. glad to hear that she was doing well till the end that is the best we can hope for in this life.
 
John ED Renstrom said:
some time knowing what goes on is a curse. glad to hear that she was doing well till the end that is the best we can hope for in this life.
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Thought of that Ed, if I hadn't known all the inside stuff on them I wouldn't have noticed as much. Most people wouldn't have seen as much as me unless they had been to one of our services years ago or another funeral home. It is just a bunch of small things like leaving the casket off center and crooked in the chapel and they gave the paul bearers no instructions as to where what or how to act so soon into it they figured out I knew what to do and mainly followed my lead which I thought was kinda funny. Maybe we over instructed people on what to do?
 
Misspelling words is a PCS thing. Heck, even Terri has misspelled words on this site a number of times and she is smart. :applause:

Down my way it's a rare thing to even have pallbearers and would probably have to look it up in the dictionary. :agree:
 
Richard Vyse said:
Misspelling words is a PCS thing. Heck, even Terri has misspelled words on this site a number of times and she is smart. :applause:

Down my way it's a rare thing to even have pallbearers and would probably have to look it up in the dictionary. :agree:
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Yeah, most of us aren't rocket engineers, we are a group of people that love old hearses, ambulances and limos - even if we do pronouce them wrong sometimes, or spell them wrong - and for the most part love each other, too! Nobody is perfect!!
 
I saw it mispelled on a funeral home's information sheet once, it was spelled with a B in lieu of a P:poster_oops: The form had been used for three years before anyone noticed it. All was ok because all previous funeral arrangement made on those sheets were carried out with sucess. This just goes to show that a misspelled word will not stop the world from turning or the sun from rising.:my2cents:
 
First and foremost, I'm sorry to hear about your great-aunt, Danny. Having grown up in a "two funeral home town" I know what it is like to have the competition get a call for someone you know, then you go to the service and watch the details. We usually had a slight edge over our competitor (volume-wise), but there was truly enough business in our area for two funeral homes. If we lost a call we thought we'd get, the next week they'd lose a call to us, so it really wasn't that big of a deal. We always prided ourselves on having a major edge over our competitor when it came to running a service. They did a nice job, but my dad was / is very detail oriented (and thankfully that rubbed off on me.)

Details do make all the difference in funeral service, though. I couldn't imagine starting a funeral without having spoken to the pallbearers. Had a funeral on Friday at one of the churches we frequent. The service was small and the six pallbearers were older gentlemen who have all been pallbearers more times than they'd care to remember. Still, I gathered them together and appropriately joked that they didn't need any instructions from me, to which they all laughed and agreed. I still had them sign the pallbearer page in the register book, reminded them they'd be sitting in the front pew on the right side, and discussed their mode of transportation to the cemetery.

The smallest details make the biggest differences...
 
Danny Ryder said:
Thanks John, knew something was wrong with that but see Paul S. listed so much got confused!:stars:
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OK... Blame me. :boo:
I saw the misspelled word right after you posted it, and was tempted to correct the spelling, however, I only correct spelling when the word that is incorrectly misspelled is so far off the mark that most will not be able to figure out what the poster is trying to say. Misspelling is one of those things that we all need to learn to forgive, since not all of us are that good of a speller. If it were not for a good spell check program on my computer, I would have quite a few misspelled words also. The real trick is to know exactly what word you want to use, and then select that word from the list that the spell check program lists. Sometimes, you can't even find the word, and then I head over to www.dictionary.com and search for the correct word by trying different spellings until I find it. On occasions, I just can't find the word, and then I rewrite the sentence.

As an example, spell check just corrected two words in this post that I misspelled...

How long will it be before someone decides that we will start criticizing people for not using proper punctuation? Let he who is perfect throw the first stone, and until that one perfect person joins these forums, then we should just become more tolerant of our fellow members.
Thanks
Pall
 
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